You cannot fill with new ideas a mind full of prejudices, fears, and limiting thougths. To find new solutions you must keep your mind free, open, curious, and unbiased.
Openness and love
If our life is controlled by fear, resentment, prejudice, hatred, intolerance we cannot grow. Growth is based on openness and love.
You are broken by what you experience only if you are stiff, rigid, blocked. Be flexible, listen, embrace change to live better.